At around 20 weeks of pregnancy, again we were flagged as being at a high risk for neural tube defect. Apparently, this hardly ever happens! You’ve got to love being out of the ordinary! This time however, we didn’t worry too much, we just booked the scans and waited. Thankfully, all was well and we discovered we were having a little boy! We were just so happy to be having a healthy little baby who would hopefully be a great little mate for James. Although James had not yet been formally diagnosed at this stage, we had already discussed the possible risk factors for a consequent male sibling if James did in fact have autism. In Australia, about one in every 110 children has autism. Of this group three out of every four are boys. For male siblings of children already diagnosed with autism, they are up to 33% more likely to end up with a diagnosis of ASD (Autistic Spectrum Disorder). These are concerning statistics and I’ll be honest in saying that this still remains a nagging feeling in the back of my mind, despite the fact that three specialists have now told us Thomas is not on the Autistic Spectrum. It’s just so hard not to worry.
Thomas’ birth was calm and amazing, and again we were surrounded by all the same outstanding people … including Dad! Thomas was born on the 15th of January, 2008 and he was exactly the same weight, length and had the same circumference as James! Needless to say, he was also breech so his was a C-Section delivery also. The experience of giving birth and raising Thomas could not possibly have been more different than it was with James. In hospital, I guess I had prepared for the same experiences I had with James but it was the total opposite. Thomas had no issues with feeding. He slept well and was relaxed. There were even moments in hospital where I felt … bored! He was just so good! I just couldn’t believe it! I thought he was the most incredible, beautiful and of course gifted baby that ever was!
Chris and I had done lots of preparation with James for the arrival of Thomas and he was fantastic with Thomas. He was gentle and caring, and interested. It was beautiful to watch. Tom has always been interested in James. From the time he could smile and then laugh, it was all about James for Tom. As soon as he could crawl, he was into all the same things that James loved. And now they are the closest of mates. They share a passion for all things Star Wars and they really look after one another. Like all siblings, they argue and compete, but at the end of the day they’re pretty tight. Chris and I are really proud of that.